Scott Halleran / Getty Images Grey’s Anatomy character Christina Yang is full of words of wisdom and words to motivate you achieve your goals, whatever those may be. Whether it’s quotations about hard work, men, and self-worth, Christina is all-knowing. Everyone needs a little Christina Yang wisdom once in a while for motivation and comfort. Here…

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Time Check

2015 is an exciting, enticing, candid, challenging and the year of out of the box. Reasons varies like the colors of the rainbow.

A. Be part of the revolution
– Revolution to change the status quo and no longer settle for mediocrity and complacency. Months ago, I became part of an organization which lifts the Competitiveness of the country which translates in raising the bar for performance excellence not only in personal level but also state level.

B. Listen more and talk less

I tend to talk

most of the time, random thinker as they say, but with a number of diverse people I met, I believe I could spend more time to listen as much as time allotted to speak.

C. Travel more
– Privileged. Is a word that could sum up what I am doing. As part of my duties and responsibilities as an employee I have to roam around the country and promote several advocacies towards competitiveness. A drum beating activity may sometime drain not only physical but also mental aspects of your being. Strike a balance between work-life and your off to go!

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C. Volunteer more
– Since I volunteered last year, the chain of positivism lingers in me. Sounds cliche, but it is true. I could spend my long weekend volunteering for a cause than sit idle looking at the window waiting for my dreams and endeavors to become a reality.

D. Financial literateracy v Frugality
– I am pro financial literacy since then, I am quite lucky enough to be part of a small community which highly value education. Knowledge is power as they say. Last year I set up my own set of goals towards my financial status. I could tell that it is so strange that there are people who are attached to a thin colored paper which has really an imaginative value. Where did the value of interest rates, stock market valuations and a lot more came from?

E. You are an ordinary-extraordinary individual
-As your age (practically the numbers associated with your existence), your values and even perspectives differs and widens. It is so weird to think that you have  limited limitless time here. Limited coz at a certain time you will die, limitless in a sense that you can do a lot of things while existing. For an individual, it is an ordinary day,month or year, but for others it is already an extraordinary gift; of being alive and breathing oxygen and still rationally thinking. How about those who could no longer remember what they did?? so strange isn’t?

Calibrating Tea Break

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It was a nice Saturday chillin out in my parent’s humble abode while enjoying a nice cup of tea and a nice pastry to complement my afternoon break.

For the past few days of settling down at the metro, with rush and pressure that has been your foe, I felt fed up and wanted to go home. I felt abused, underpaid, unproductive and incompetent if not having the confidence.

Everyone needs a break- so do I

My minde demanded to shut it off, since it was a long holiday, I assumed that I will be reading my favorite books if not just being laid back in my room.  I think, being laid back once in a while is good, to re-aling your perspectives, as of you’re in a bus and saw a nice scenery outside and decided you  want to see it for more hours.

Working with the demands of our reapective  jobs is a must. But be sure to enjoy what you’re doing, otherwisr, you’re making a big fool out of yourself.

Quarter Life Crisis- Oh No!

I’m on a quarter life crisis

Right after graduation from university, drafted and finalized all the documents and credentials that I have before leaving the comforts of my Alma matter, I did my best. I tried to winged all the subjects right back in university, cross cultural communications, International Relations, Economic and Political Geography- name it!

I scourged all the high-end companies in the metropolis aiming for the “ideal” job that I want. – Reality speaks for itself- you can’t have it all.

Fast track, here I am, while stereo on in my humble abode, reading the daily newspaper (which I’ve been longing to do) over a cup of coffee and an article caught my attention – entitled – Young and Bored.

I am young, enthusiastic, inquisitive and vibrant 20-something and not so fresh graduate. Worked with various companies, with not so high salary and beyond from what I have been dreaming of when I left the university.

I am working on my nth company, where it demands both of my creative and mental skills to produce something. I wear several hats- from policy drafting, review, communications, and even secretariat. I am challenge to do my job well- aiming for perfection like having a perfect blend of your cocktail while sitting relaxed on a hammock while reading your favorite novel on a perfect beach coast.

There’s really no “PERFECT or IDEAL”, it is always about:

  • Finding Balance- set and unmet expectations from the real world will tell you that you have to work on the tides not against it.
  • Levering the playing field- no matter what you do, people just can’t help themselves to give in their precious comments and judgments (weather it is positive or negative) “just don’t care” (like what John Legend song says).
  • No to perfect job – yes to lovin’ the present- I don’t understand why school teaches us the ideal yet it is like 360 degrees different from the reality? Why not teach expectation setting rather than “aiming to be perfect”? Is it because students are too good and easily to be trained to have the ideas in their mind and will tell the world- I’ll change the status quo?
  • I haven’t learn this when I was in school- reality will give you hard core and down till dawn life- lessons which has more retention than finishing a minimum 200 pages of your textbook. Savor it, nothing will be a waste if you will see each failures, rejections and No’s as part of honing you as a better person.
  • I’ll stick to the status quo- I highly encourage people to go out of their own box. Even, personally, I have my own issues on keeping myself out of the box. Seek more adventures, not because you have something to post on your IG nor fb, but for the sake of overcoming your inferiorities and fears. Challenge yourself to change the way you think. Read. Even your eyes are too tired to finish a chapter and listen to those who want to speak (listening is a good skill by the way). J

Perhaps, it will always be a learning journey (who says it is not about learning anyway?). Working is not solely because of money, but because of learning. You want to learn.

High on Chai

Idealism- what’s wrong with me?

I am an idealist.

I’ve been an idealist since I went to university and paid religious and respectful visits to the library- where all the information can be accessed – even Google will do.

I’ve been too inquisitive and idealistic of how do people, community and even take advantage. Who gets, what, when and how- as defined by Politics. Why will I go to work and tilt the land in order to survive or increase my networth? Is it about having the guts to stand beyond the usual or just part of the gameplan? – I don’t know.

There was this strange feeling of inefficiency, of unproductiveness beyond my own imagination and own set of standards. I felt, I’m not working for the common people but I am working for a diverse group of individuals with dynamic and vibrant personalities. I thought, I already conquered my anxiety, fear of failure and being perfectionist- I was wrong. Yes the world rotates on its axis on a daily basis, as piles of papers and workloads just come and go with the days to count and move on.

So down and afraid to fight the good fight, I grab a cup of chai tea with a colleague on the go and spent few hours discussing about cultures, realities and idealism.

The tea that makes me feel great after a sip and will surely take more of it.  🙂

Unexpected Motivational Question

What Motivates you?
This has been one of the attention seeking question that I’ve got from the 2 day workshop that I have attended ( working as secretariat). I have been looking for the proper words to say about it, yet, I want to make this simple –  it is innate/ within.
What Motivates me might be different from what motivates you and everyone else. 
The first time that I had this feeling of being motivated was when I went to uni and tried my best to aced all the subjects that I have. With  a tap in my shoulder thing or an A+ from my professors, friends and classmates – voila! I’m ready to work! Nevertheless, with all the idealism in my mind to conquer and even change the status quo, I ended up starting my career in the grassroot level (which I did not regret) and moving towards a diversified experience.
A simple chat, smile, hello, thank you, sorry and even a cup of coffee motivates me to wake up every single morning. Coming from the “proletariat”, I’ve been longing for a “proper” acknowledgement, of respect, of attention that the society does not care to give me.
Remembering my experience/s in the community, where the people are all on the go, I find myself satisfied even my pocket is aching from the “wants”  rather than the “needs” that must take into reconciliation.
Does your salary/money motivates you to go to work? or is it the job that makes you feel in agile and want to smashed it in a day? or a simple learning experience is suffice to justify why you are here, in this field of work?
Does title, (prefix on your name/s) makes you feel good? or does the number of “0”s in your bank account statements makes you satisfied and self- assured?
I find it challenging, motivating and even inspiring to know that I am working with a group of people who loves volunteering, they are working beyond their own professional works, with personal errands to run, but they are working for the love of country – no more no less.
I can feel how satisfying it is to do “volunteering works”, (aside from literally going out to the community) but seeing these group of people from the top management and at middle-aged individuals still takes time to go out of their own boxes to work and motivate the SME’s makes me feel in awe.

Unusual Valentine

Spending your valentines day with the family and good set of friends feels like you’re already having a date of your life.

It was not because I don’t have  special someone to be with on this so called “couple’s day”;  I prefer to be with my family rather than spend it on a solo backpacking trip. 21 years ago,  my mom would always keep on telling me and the rest of the fam, that she met a nice woman, who loves backpacking, travelling and mountain climbing, went to our home and talked a lot of things.

I think I am destined to be a single. These were the words that popped in her head yesterday when we talked. She finds tranquility and peace of mind by herself in her own home right just at the back of my parent’s home.She hosted a nice valentines day gathering at her home, where she also invited some of our neighbors and their children (unfortunately, I am the only single person – aside from the host). They shared stories how life has been, they’re excited to see how generations just come and go ( and I thought, what if, I go old, will I still have the same set of friends like my parents have?)

I just find it fascinating, even if time really passes us by ( and as fast as you can’t get hold of it), there are people who will still be there no matter what.

I envy my parents for having friends whom at their back when their down, or whenever there is something to celebrate. I envy and wished that my set of friends that I have at the moment will be the same as my parents. Even if, we don’t talk that much, even across miles, I wish it is far beyond the spoken words, but of meaning, of feeling.

We may live in different places, with different timezones, with different ways and means to spend our time (here), but what matters most? It is the time we spend with the people we most cherished.

* this may sound mushy, and for the valentines date that I could think of, it is best to celebrate with your family and friends! 🙂

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